I’m about to ask you a notoriously unconventional question; do you have a healthy relationship with food? I am not asking you to romanticize your meals. If you’re someone who has switched your diet multiple times in order to find the “right one”, or have questioned your eating habits at least once in your life.
Let’s face it, all of us have been there.
There’s a really fine line between thinking carefully about what we put in our bodies, and religiously following it or even restricting it dangerously.
We all have that inner voice inside our heads and for most of us, it dictates us how we choose our food, and sometimes it’s very loud. It’s almost like a bully that screams “you are not good enough”.
We need to get rid of that voice to start developing a healthy relationship with food. Ask yourself what you really want and what you would really enjoy that day.
Forming a healthy relationship with food takes conscious effort, but it is possible. I know we all want it, and trust me, you’ll thank yourself for not only nourishing your body but also your soul.
Always think about “Moderation”
Let’s be real here: we need to eat healthy as much as possible whenever you can and as little unhealthy garbage as you can.
Harris-Pincus recommends eating the foods your body truly needs — fruits, vegetables, whole grains, and protein — 80 to 90 percent of the time.
The less-healthy foods you love — pillowy doughnuts, freshly baked cookies, crispy french fries, pepperoni pizza — are fine to eat, but should only account for 10 to 20 percent of your overall diet.
No one worries about eating fruits and vegetables in moderation. So, the moderation we’re talking about here is moderating an indulgence.
Let’s be clear: You should indulge. Eating things you love should be a normal, regular part of life. But relying on the nebulous concept of eating everything in moderation can give way to overindulging in a way that obstructs your goals.
Be kind to yourself to not only give yourself permission to indulge but also permission to not restrict yourself. So, what happens when you ask a child not do something, they’ll do it even more when no ones looking.
If you strictly restrict yourself, then you’ll overindulge when you get a chance and that’s not pleasant, you’re lying to yourself if you didn’t overindulge before going on a sugar-free diet. Don’t do that to yourself. It’s not enjoyable to live like that.
That’s the kind of moderation, we’re looking to follow.
Listen to your body
When you’re about to buy something that you know is going to cause you harm, ask yourself repeatedly, “am I doing this because my body needs it, or am I just looking for instant gratification”.
Be aware of how you feel after eating certain foods. Try to balance out the meals that make you feel good, without restricting it. Be selfish when it comes to taking care of your body.
Be conscious about the signs your body gives you when it’s almost full, that’s when you know you need to stop eating. Eat only until you are satisfied. Being attentive to your body during the eating can help avoid overeating and provide the nourishment your body needs.
When you just eat because you’re bored or because food is near you, you might not be listening to your body’s cues.
It’s vital to learn how to listen to your body when it tells you that you are hungry and when you are hungry.
Don’t bound yourself to use the scale
I’m not gonna lie, there was a phase in my life where I would always judge myself based on a weighing scale.
Society always misinterprets being healthy to having a slim body and it most often comes up with a very irksome question, “how much do you weigh?”
Let’s take a plant-based diet, for instance, it’s proven by major health experts to improve health and vitality, but this is a small change that cannot be measured on a weighing scale, at least not instantly.
It’s imbecile to think that scales are a marker of health. How can how you look on the outside reflect on how you feel and are functioning on the inside?
Starving yourself just to get a few grams off of the weighing scale is ridiculous.
The small steps you’ll take to improve your health will not show on the weighing scale, which if you keep doing will only demotivate you.
Don’t bound yourself to reach a specific number. Focus on being mindful instead.
Focus on the long-term not short-term
Following obscure new modern diets that come up in your feed every single day or just because they are a trend is not the way. It’s not about how you feel weeks or months later but how you feel years later.
Don’t you think if a diet worked then we would all be following it? Why are people coming up with new ones every single day?
You shouldn’t focus on changing your diet, but instead your lifestyle. Focus on nourishing your mind and your body.
Invest in your body for a return of investment later. Always remember its a process.
Several food bloggers and supposedly foodies claim they “live to eat”, which I think is wrong on so many levels.
“One should eat to live, not live to eat” — Benjamin Franklin
I was watching a Ted Talk once and a scientist beautifully explained how we get our food from plants, and they make food with the help of sunlight. He said, “when we eat the energy is sunlight”. I think it’s so amazing to think that the energy we get from our food is literally sunlight.
Think of your body as a safe haven, and only allow foods that are good for you, and that you feel are right for your body.
Being mindful about treating your body right, it will thank you later.
Come on, let’s be practical here now, avoid trigger foods. These are the foods that you eat in large portions just to make yourself feel good.
Out of sight, out of mind actually works.
If you don’t have a stash of your favorite chocolate bars, you can’t grab one to distract you when you’re bored, comfort you when you’re stressed, or do anything other than satisfy a true craving for that exact chocolate bar. More so, if you want it so bad, you’re going to go out and get it. So, just don’t bring anything that you think might be a trigger inside your house.
Your body is a home, you’ll live in forever. Respect it and nourish it.
Let me know what you think about it in the comment section below!
Love and light,